Why Marry In Church?
A church is so much more than simply a venue for your special day. Weddings in our churches are memorable and joyful occasions lasting around an hour, made more joyous by the beauty of the surroundings, the music and by the fact that they are part of a Christian tradition stretching back centuries. You will experience a spiritual dimension to your wedding – knowing that your marriage is blessed by God is the foundation of the day, and of your future together. Our fine organ and choir can make your service even more special. The prayers, hymns and readings at a church ceremony provide a sense that you are being 'supported' in your life long commitment to one another and as the Church Times recently suggested holding your wedding in a church gives you "space to think" not just about your special day but about the whole of your life together.
The heart of the marriage ceremony comes as you make your marriage vows to one another. You promise to ‘love and to cherish; for better or worse; for richer or poorer; in sickness and in health till death us do part.’
Who Can Get Married In Church?
In order to get married in church you need to have what’s called a “qualifying connection” with the parish. Some couples who marry at our churches already have such a connection, other couples create a connection by coming to worship with us for six months. Talk to us to find out more.
Which Church Can We Get Married In?
Both All Saints, Aston and Holy Trinity, Ulley make wonderful church venues in which to hold your wedding. Both buildings are steeped in history, make awesome settings for your photographs and of course weddings have taken place in these two places of worship in the presence of God for centuries.
What About Children?
Couples who come to us often already have children and we make them welcome. Depending on their age, they can be involved with the service by carrying the rings, saying a prayer, doing a reading, receiving a blessing with their parents, or in traditional roles such as bridesmaid or usher.
What If One Of Us Is Divorced?
If one or both of you has been married before and is divorced, unfortunately we are currently unable to marry you here at All Saints or Holy Trinity. However, this varies from church to church, so we would recommend trying other Church of England Churches.
What Is The Process?
The first step in booking your wedding is to contact the parish office. Hazel Winstanley will take initial information, send you an information booklet and make you an initial appointment with her. To this meeting will need to bring various documentation and £100 deposit to make a firm booking. A few months before your wedding you will be invited to a wedding preparation event, which helps you look at what the wedding vows mean for your relationship, and think through the details of your wedding service. After that you can prepare your orders of service, using a template supplied by us. The full fees are payable 4 – 6 weeks before your wedding. Your banns of marriage will be called on three consecutive Sundays two months before your wedding date, and you will be informed of the dates, as we encourage you to attend if you can.
Can I Have A Blessing In Church After A Civil Wedding?
Yes, we'd be happy to do that. Ask us for more details.
What Music And Hymns Can I Have At My Wedding?
Our Director of Music will look after you as mush as possible with your music requests and will endeavour to prepare the music for your special day. It is traditional in church to have organ music for the brides' procession, during the signing of the registers and on exit of the wedding couple and we certainly encourage you to opt for this however, you may also choose some appropriate music from a CD if you want something completely different. You will need to provide the CD before the day with your specific tracks clearly labelled. It is also usual to have at least two Christian Hymns during the ceremony and we encourage you to think carefully about which hymns you feel you would like by listening to the music and lyrics. The first hymn is usually near to the beginning of the service and serves to give everyone present a real sense of purpose in being there together to celebrate the bride and grooms' special occasion, the second hymn is optional and is placed in the middle of the service close to the readings with a final hymn which may be just after the registers are signed.
All Saints, Aston is blessed with a full and capable robed choir and if you feel that your own wedding guests may need help in singing the hymns and/or you'd like the choir to sing something beautiful during the signing of the registers then do request our choir and we will do our best to provide them for your wedding service. A choir is likely to be more possible on a Saturday than a weekday due to the working patterns of choristers but please do ask. The church service is a large part of your special day and we really do recommend employing our choir which will be a massive help with leading the singing, this will help your guests feel more confident to 'have a go' at singing along and prevent you and your guests from feeling uncomfortable if inexperienced in hymn singing. Our choir is a mixed choir of all ages who rehearse weekly and charges are usually based upon the quality of the choir in any church, we really do feel that it is a small financial investment for such a large gain at All Saints Aston. You may know someone who you would like to perform for you during your ceremony - no problem; let us know and we will try to make things possible for you. We consider the church bells music too and offer a bell ringing service of our three beautiful church bells at the end of the ceremony, these traditionally announce to the local area that something special has happened within the church regarding new found happiness and a new life together. The ringing of bells at a wedding ceremony is a centuries old and lovely tradition. Please talk to Hazel in the Parish Office about the costs of choir and bells and let the wonder of the sounds of church music round off your special day perfectly. You may also attend a Thursday evening choir rehearsal by appointment to hear the choir or hear simply them on a Sunday morning of course.
Now, you may be a specialist in church music...but just in case you are not then we have prepared a list of suitable items for hymns, choir and organ music with links to hear them on YouTube for you to choose from. We hope that this list is of valuable help to you in making the music of your special day work for you. You can download the MS Word list here. Any problems with music or to discuss further music details or possibilities please do feel free to contact our Director of Music: Mr Ian Watts by email by clicking here.
Where Can We Find Out More?
Please contact Hazel in the Parish Office on Tuesdays between 1:00 p.m. and 4:30 p.m. or Thursdays between 9:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m. Tel 07934 101538 or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org if you wish to book or enquire about a wedding.
For more general information about getting married in church take a look at yourchurchwedding.org